The End Is Near
As some of you fans know (note the truly astounding number of comments I generate per posting) I have been involved in a drawn-out divorce which has truly changed my outlook on life, relationships, and the pursuit of happiness. As of this date, the paperwork has begun to work it's way throught the attorneys, then to the Magistrate, then to the Judge and finally to the Recorder who enters it into the "Big Book of Divorced People" (available in hard-cover or paperback at quality book stores in Wood County, Ohio). If you order a copy you need at least a quarter-ton pickup or major SUV to take it to your place of residence, it makes a great, extra-firm mattress or backless couch. It has been a long and very draining process, lasting almost 2 years. I don't know how long the paperwork jouney will take but if it's done by Christmas it'll be egg-nog for all! Throughout , I have had the support of friends, co-workers, family and Cheryl, my 1999 Honda Odyssey with over 176,000 miles on her. I know it has been tough on my kids and if I could have done anything to lessen the hurt, I would have done it in a heartbeat. My relationship with them has forever changed and we are all in the infant stages of whatever relationships arise from the ashes of a marriage. I love them dearly and take some comfort that, as their dad, we will be able to take those baby-steps into our collective futures. Does time heal the "wounds"? Only time will tell. It's a new reality and a new beginning for me and I'm taking it one day at a time because I only have today and I can't find anyone or anything that will guarantee me that I'll see tomorrow. This treatise has a very somber tone and I guess that's only fitting. There is a relief that the finality of the diovorce is nearer but it hasn't been fun and unlike some other divorces I've heard about there won't be any big celebration when it's done. I'll take my time and enjoy the day but it's a little hard to celebrate when the ones you love most are trying to adjust to you and your new-found singleness. My happiness is my family and especially my kids. The day-to-day routes to other sources of happiness are being constantly explored and life isn't the downer that I've made it sound like. I look forward with hope and forge ahead with humor. One day at a time.
